The 10 Best Ways to Improve Your Self Confidence
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If you have any knowledge of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – you’ll have a basic understanding of the importance of improving your self-confidence. Being confident helps your personal and professional relationships, as well as helps your psychological wellbeing.
Below I describe the best 10 ways to improve your self-confidence.
These aren’t in any particular order, but you do need nearly all of them to build confidence in yourself.
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1. Your Purpose & Cognitive Biases
Having a basic understanding of what your beliefs are – and cognitive biases that you may have can help a lot when it comes to building your confidence.
When understanding what your beliefs are, it’s important to understand what your place in the world is. If you’re not sure what it is – that’s okay.
You should work towards understanding why you believe you’re here and the greater purpose that you serve. It’s hard to be confident in yourself when you’re unsure of what you should be doing with your daily life.
A cognitive bias is an error in thinking based on an incorrect personal interpretation of the world’s processes.
Learning these biases will help you understand your incorrect interpretations of events. Which in turn will allow you to build your confidence by becoming more open-minded and educated.
A common cognitive bias is called the confirmation bias. The confirmation bias is the tendency to support or favor ideas that confirm our existing beliefs and cater to our current knowledge. Knowing this is important when navigating tricky social and political situations that you may face.
2. Be Grateful
Oftentimes, we don’t spend enough time thinking about all of the things that we’re provided and given every day. Being grateful is important to confidence because it allows you to understand that what you have is enough. When you’re confident in yourself, you believe that what you are currently is valuable just the way it is.
If you try and convince yourself that you’ll be confident and happy when you have money, other materialistic belongings, or even more knowledge, you’re kidding yourself.
If you struggle to be grateful for what you have, try living without it for a few days. Do you waste a lot of food? Try fasting for just 2 days and educate yourself on food shortages throughout the world. I’m almost certain you will have a change of attitude towards your food.
Doing this will help to put things into perspective and guide yourself on being a better person – but still thankful for yourself and the things you currently have.
3. Focus on Your Health
Do you take time to focus on your health? When you’re feeling sick do you avoid calling into work for fear of pushback from coworkers? Maybe you never visit the dentist and don’t attempt to clean your teeth yourself.
Taking care of your health is very important for building self-confidence. In fact, you should always take care of yourself before others around you. The more you care for yourself, the more you’re able to better care for others.
Focusing on your health helps to ensure that you’re always feeling the best.
To ensure I am eating the best fuel for me, I use the app Lose It! to track my calories. It’s such a great app that allows you to track your macros, your weight, and it even uses your Ancestry to create the best caloric plan for you. If you’re looking to lose a few extra pounds, I’d definitely check it out!
4. Partake in Self-Care
A big reason that I decided to start this blog was to share the importance of self-care with others.
Self-care is important for your confidence because it builds up your self-worth. Although it may seem that something as silly as washing your hair and face can improve your self-worth, it definitely will make a difference!
I used to neglect my self-care out of hatred for myself and the belief that it make me ‘weak’. I’m now only starting to understand how important self-care is for others and myself.
If you live in a family where being vulnerable or talking about mental health is taboo, make sure to find a group of people you can trust to build you up.
If you notice that you waste a lot of your time sitting around instead of keeping yourself entertained, check out this post about things you can do in your free time.
Some self-care products from Amazon to check out!
5. Growth Mindset & Forgiving Yourself
At this point, it seems that almost everyone has heard about the growth mindset.
A lot of times we tend to put ourselves into a box of things we can and can’t do. Instead, allow yourself to know your capabilities but always believe that you can improve. You may not be good with math, but you can always improve and may one day become great at it.
When I was younger, I was always doubting myself and my abilities. I wouldn’t even allow myself to try new things out of fear of failing. I wish someone would have told me failing was just the process of improving.
More than likely, if you’re not failing, you’re not improving. To be confident, you need to accept your shortcomings and forgive yourself for any mistakes you’ve made in the past – and move on.
Allow yourself to grow without judgment and work harder to fail more.
6. Toxic People & Having Boundaries
Although I believe this is the hardest step out of all of them, it is also the best for your confidence.
All during my childhood, I had an extremely toxic friend (my only friend), who always made belittling comments towards me.
At this time, I had the worst social anxiety and couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror without crying.
After I had left the friendship and created new healthy bonds with others, I was finally able to be happy, look at myself in the mirror, and understand my true self-worth.
Surrounding yourself with others who lift you up instead of tearing you down is one of the most important things you can do in life.
Take my advice and learn to set boundaries for yourself and don’t tolerate others treating you poorly. You cannot be confident if you allow those around you to belittle and mock you.
Words leave bruises longer than fists will.
7. Find a Way to Work Through Your Emotions
Sadly, I know too many people who don’t know how to “deal” with their emotions. For centuries, emotions have been seen as bad, toxic, and just plain useless.
Emotions play a large role in making you who you are and they help to shape many of the beliefs you currently have. They even play a huge role in many of the buying purchases you make.
While I don’t encourage you to take all of your emotions to face value and justify everything you feel – I do encourage you to learn more about emotional intelligence and how you can use emotions to your benefit.
One book in particular called ‘Permission to Feel’ by Marc Brackett is a great read if you’re looking to understand your emotions better. This book has changed my life for the better – I recommend it to everyone.
8. Give Yourself Realistic Goals
A lot of people I know set very high expectations for themselves. While it’s good that you set high standards, it can really tear down your self-esteem when you constantly feel like you’re falling short.
Confident people always give themselves goals they know they are able to achieve.
When setting goals, you should always look for a challenge but nothing that is impossible or so difficult it causes you to give up.
If you find it hard to set realistic goals for yourself, start with the bare minimum expectations for yourself. The more you work towards your goals, the easier it will be to understand what is realistic for you.
9. Make Better Choices
Sadly, I know a lot of people who make a lot of poor decisions in their life.
You can’t expect to be confident in yourself and your abilities if you’re constantly making impulsive decisions.
When a confident person knows they don’t make impulsive decisions, they trust themselves. You may be lacking trust in yourself if you don’t think before you do.
Having trust in yourself provides you with comfort knowing that when you are faced with a difficult decision – you will make the best you can.
Making better choices can be implemented in every portion of your life from personal relationships to your coworkers.
10. Stop Putting Unnecessary Pressure on Yourself
You may put pressure on yourself because you believe that if you don’t, then you’ll fall behind others or you’ll be underprepared. This just leads to you sabotaging yourself rather than building your confidence.
The first step to stop putting unnecessary pressure on yourself is to stop believing that you need to be perfect otherwise you’ve failed. You should accept your failures and understand that you can’t reach perfection. No one is perfect.
You should also try hard to lead a balanced life. At the end of the day, the most important thing is the people surrounding you and knowing you’ve experienced everything you’ve needed to.
If you knew you were going to die today, would you really be worried about the trivial things in life?
I really hope that this list helped you to build up your confidence in yourself. Also, congrats on spending the time to better yourself!
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